What Is Love And How To Be Happy In A Long Lasting Romantic Relationship

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Refusing to love for fear of suffering is like refusing to live in fear of dying. – Jim Morrison

Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. – Khalil Gibran

If we are incapable of finding love in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere. – Robert Smith

 

There’s a legend that says that a long time ago, on an Hawaiian island, an unusual custom was observed.

Johnny Lingo had come to bargain for a wife. A dowry was paid to the daughter’s father.

The regular rate was three cows for a wife. If the girl was very special, four cows would be given.

Someone tells an unconfirmed story that a young lady a very long time ago had gone for the amazing sum of five cows.

The girl of little value, sullen, undesirable

A father had two daughters: one was
very nice, the other was considered by
her neighbors, and even by her father, to
be of little value, sullen, ugly and undesirable.

Old Dad had decided that he only expected to receive one or two cows for the little value daughter.

The truth is Old Dad considered her daughter only a burden that he had to feed so he was even willing to let her go for no cows at all.

Johnny Lingo was the richest man on the island. One day he came to visit this little family. No doubts he would choose the pretty girl.

Everyone was stunned when, instead, he called on the ugly daughter. Old Dad was overjoyed. He knew Johnny was a wealthy and generous man so he expected to receive at least the standard sum of three cows.

Now imagine the surprise when Johnny brought ten cows. Old Dad couldn’t believe it! He made quickly perform the ceremony, before the guy could change his mind.

The amazing change

Johnny endured some derision; however, they left the island and they took a honeymoon.

Two years later, they came back.

People were astonished. The girl, Mahana, had changed dramatically and nobody recognized her at first.

She wasn’t a shy and homely girl anymore.

She was now a beautiful, confident and happy young lady; her charm was so great, that people started to think Johnny had really gotten a bargain.

People asked: “How can be she so different?”

Johnny replied:

“Think about how it must make a girl feel to know she is worth only one cow.

Before she believed she was worth nothing. As a result, that’s the value she projected.

Now, she knows she is worth more than any other woman in the islands. It shows, doesn’t it?”

Bottom line is: if you want to have a long lasting romantic relationship and take it to the next level follow the these steps...

1. Make your partner feel important

Many things can change a person.There are things that happen on the inside and things that happen on the outside.

However, what matters most is how she views herself. If you make her believe she is worth nothing that’s the value she projects.

On the other hand, if she believes she’s worth enough, life will reflect this belief.

In short, think about the value you put on people because people respond according to the value you place on them.

2. Commit towards the same vision of life

You have
to trust that the other person is as committed as you are to the vision for your lives together. 

You have to feel the same dream. You have to feel the support of a person that says: “I am as committed as you are towards this vision of life”.

Build common goals or projects to achieve together. It may be having children, building a home, the next holidays, starting a business together.

Also accept your partner without judging. In a family you feel accepted, protected, you feel a sense of belonging. You don’t feel judged but only loved.

3. Learn to love yourself first

All relationships are, first of all, a relationship with ourselves.

Our relationships reflect our conscious
and subconscious mind.

So the most important question to ask ourselves
when something is not going the way
we would like is: “What thoughts and
beliefs are present in me that are making me a match to this unwanted situation?”

If you heal any aspect of yourself,
 any emotional wound and grow into a complete, whole version of yourself every relationship is easier.

The reason is that
now you feel inner peace and everything grows from what you hold inside of you.

4. Don’t hold yourself back

As I just said, if you grow into the whole version of yourself every relationship is easier.

The truth is, however, that nobody is truly
a whole, complete version of himself. Not
even the most enlightened spiritual teachers of the past as Jesus, Buddha, etc.

So, if you close everybody out of your life,no matter what you achieve, you are not going to feel completely fulfilled.

You need someone to truly love and support each other.

You are going to see sides of you that you didn’t know. That’s when you’re really going to grow and become more whole.

Love expands from within

It is now clear how important it is to love ourselves and be confident. Because if we are incapable of finding love in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.

This concept doesn’t apply only to romantic love. It applies to every relationship. It also applies to parenting our children. Because self-love is the root from which everything grows.

In my FREE e-book "Love your life "I explain just that: how to love yourself once again. Because everything starts within.

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Your Beliefs Create Your World | Tony Robbins

Every decision in your life is controlled by your beliefs and values. You may not realize it, but you have the power to choose what you believe about your life, people, money and health. You can either choose beliefs that limit you, or beliefs that empower you to move toward success. Your beliefs energize you to create the world you want to live in right now. What you value determines what you focus on.

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How To Make Yourself Happy And Improve Your Relationships

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It’s easy to blame other people for what’s going wrong in our life.

It’s the easiest thing to do.

But we need to start to take a deep look inside ourselves. And take responsibility for our choices.

Be part of the solution

We always point our finger against others when something is not the way we want it to be. We watch the world crumble before our eyes and we always think that others are the problem.

Actually we contribute to the problem thinking that it’s not our responsibility to resolve it. It was there before us, after all.

It may be true; we didn’t cause all the problems.

But what if we held ourselves responsible and say “I’m better than that, I can fix it myself”?

Instead we don’t think that it’s our problem because we fail to understand that if we are contributing to the problem then we are part of the problem.

So if you don’t want to be part of the problem then always focus on being part of the solution.

You decide between being part of the problem or part of the solution in every single moment of your life, in every single decision you face.

So choose wisely: be part of the solution. Because the world needs solutions, not further problems.

“Building trust requires no more than telling the truth, not telling people what they want to hear.”– Simon Sinek

“Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.”–Stephen Covey

“If you hire people just because they can do a job, they’ll work for your money. But if you hire people who believe what you believe, they’ll work for you with blood and sweat and tears.”– Simon Sinek

Have faith in the external world

Too many times we don’t have faith in other people, we don’t have faith in the external world.

We always seek independence… But our true nature is to be interdependent. This means to truly trust others, it means to become One.

To build something awesome you need people. People like you. People like me.You have to place faith in other people.

You have to convince them that what you’re talking about matters. You have to involve them in a project bigger than themselves.

Because if you know your purpose, if you know why you’re doing it, you will be motivated every single day. And people will give you, naturally and with enthusiasm, great amount of their time, energy and effort.

Here are three things you can do to improve happiness, relationships and productivity:

1. Be a Leader

Leaders don’t give orders, they give inspiration. They teach through example.

You don’t need to have a business to be a leader. You can be a leader in every relationship: friends, children, family.

Great leaders develop people. They equip people to be successful. They discover what other people are good at. They build something worth fighting for.

There’s one single question you can ask yourself to understand if you are a true leader:

“If my position, title or formal authority were removed, would people that I’m leading still gladly follow me?”

If the answer is yes, then you have earned the respect of the people you lead.

2. Seek interdependence

People always seek independence; this is only beneficial to move from a feeling of powerlessness to a feeling of empowerment.

But soon it becomes detrimental because our true nature is to be interdependent.

Interdependent people are independent people that work together to create something beyond what they can do on their own. They use complementary talents to create something beyond themselves.

We cannot exist as individuals; we live in a house that someone else built, we walk on streets that someone else built, we eat food that someone else gathers.

We either thrive as One or we suffer as individuals.

Every time we attack someone, we are deepening our own wounds. Our job is not to attack others, but rather to stimulate the natural forces of healing.

3. Listen before you speak

You should listen with the intent to understand. Not with the intent to reply. Seek first to understand then to be understood.

We have different perspectives that may be both right. This happens because, our brain, represent reality through filtering and personalization.

For this reason, practice empathic listening.

Try to see the world through the eyes of the other person. And you come to realize that what they say make sense from their perspective.Even if you don’t agree. 

A new beginning starts within you

It may be true; this world is not how we want it to be.

But we are not bad. We are wounded. And a new beginning starts within us, if we truly want it.

We have to learn tolove ourselves first. Because if we are incapable of finding love in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.

In my FREE e-book “Love your life” I explain just that: how to love yourself once again. Because everything starts within and self-love is the root form which everything grows.

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How To Heal Your Body By Reconnecting With Your Natural Intelligence

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People block their intuitions, their truth, the natural energy flowing.

They get in the way.

They get in their own way.

Otherwise life flows naturally and healing occurs naturally on every level because the capacity for self-correction is built into the Universe.

A natural intelligence guides our lives

Marianne Williamson, in her lectures, explains how, from a metaphysical point of view, the Universe is perfectly self-organizing and self-correcting.

She talks about how an embryo grows into a baby. We have an egg and a sperm. And then all of a sudden, something miraculous occurs: a brain is formed, skin is formed, blood is formed.

The embryo becomes the baby.

There’s a natural intelligence that guides the process.

We can absolutely affirm that the Universe is already programmed to organize itself. 

Nature organizes itself always in the direction that allows life to survive and thrive.

It’s not just that, the Universe is also self-correcting.

This means that, if something harmful to life happens, it can always return to its natural state.

For example, we fall and we scratch our knee. As we already know the wound heals itself.

Science may explain the mechanisms by which these things occur but cannot explain the mystery behind the fact that they occur in the first place.

In medicine it is understood that what we are trying to do is mimicking nature, the perfection of which cannot possibly be matched by the human mind. – Marianne Williamson

When your life falls apart, you either grow or you grow a tumor. I decided to grow. – Lissa Rankin, MD

Why we are disconnected from our natural intelligence

Self-organization and self-correction don’t happen just in the physical world; they happen on every level; they happen on a conscious or spiritual level too.

So, Marianne Williamson explains, ‘we can naturally get a job, we can naturally create money and we can naturally produce an outer prosperity that reflects the prosperity in our hearts. We are guided by a wisdom we might not have even known we had.’

But there’s a problem.

Our ego gets in our own way. And so, the difference from human beings and a bud is that “We can say no”. In nature there doesn’t seem to be a choice but we are free beings, we can think, we can decide, we can say:

• I let this natural intelligence use me to bring forward that which is loving, that which is good, serving, thriving;
• Or we can say: “No, I don’t want to”.

So from a metaphysical prospective the consciousness of the human race has become malignant.

We are doing our own thing.

The only way to heal ourselves and the world is to reconnect to our natural intelligence finding within ourselves an innocence that is the truth of who we are. To truly learn how to love your life!

Our body can heal itself. We just have to know how. Follow the next points to get started.

1. Physical Detox

Natural healing is all about cleaning up
and detoxifying the body in order to
create the right environment for it to
thrive.

Healing requires time because
of the toxins, parasites and damages to
our cells accumulated in the entire life.

However, it’s just amazing how we ruin our body for a lifetime and then how it can heal completely in just a couple of years. 

2. Emotional Detox

It’s not just about food and supplements.

Before the body can heal, we have to heal on a spiritual level as well.

We have to heal our mind and spirit.

We have to find inner peace.

From an energetic perspective, illness is a toxicity crisis. When we suppress our emotions, dislike or reject ourselves, negative energy collects in our body and is not released.

A buildup of low vibrational energy leads to an impaired immune system and filter organs become clogged. This environment becomes perfect for bacteria and viruses to thrive. 

3. Live free from society’s expectations

If we try to please everyone we’ll end up pleasing no one. Least of all ourselves.

We are going to fail in our life if we live up to society’s expectations because we live someone else’s life, we don’t live for ourselves, for our projects, our desires.

In the long term this isn’t sustainable and is detrimental for our energy, body and relationships.

So, at that point, we come to the realization that we are damaging not only ourselves but other people as well because of the very person we have become.

Reclaim your health

The body heals itself.

Now you know that.

But knowing that it’s not enough.

You have to take action.

So now, starting tomorrow, what are you going to do that will make a change in your life direction? 

Because if you don’t start tomorrow doing something that will make a difference, guess what... It’s going to be the same.

“Health is a choice” means to give back hope to people that risked to lose it.

In my FREE e-book “The Only Answer To Chronic Diseases” I explain just that: I want you to know that you are not victim of your genes. You are the master of your destiny.

So now, it’s your choice. Make a decision. Take the challenge. It’s all on you.

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In a world where chronic diseases are becoming epidemic it’s clear that something is wrong with the way our society forces us to live.

Today’s stress (nutritional, emotional, environmental) is higher than it has ever been.

The statistics that follow, about U.S. people, are creepy to say the least:

• 1 out of 2 children will have diabetes in their life
• 1 out of 3 adults will have Type II diabetes in their life
• 1 out of 3 people will have cancer in their life
• 1 out of 5 people will have an autoimmune disease in their life

Why we are losing our battle against chronic diseases

We have been made believe that Medical Doctors know what’s best for us. That’s not the way it is. They have been trained only in one small piece of medical science known as allopathic reductionism.

Their intent is to keep the disease process under control with prescription drugs, not to cure.

The fact is that medical science includes other kinds of medicine too: naturopathic, chiropractic, homeopathic, osteopathic, acupuncture, traditional Chinese medicine and so on.

So this begs the question: why on earth we only hear about allopathic reductionism?

Naturopath Peter Glidden explains that, sadly, it’s an economic reason. Pharmaceuticals companies, with the support of the government, created a monopoly since the 1920s.

Other kinds of medicine are not recognized, the insurance pays only for MD directed medicine, the media talk only about MD directed medicine and so on.

Bottom line is:

We don’t know there is another way, we don’t know there are alternatives.

I once worked as a writer for a big New York ad agency. Our boss used to tell us: Invent a disease. Come up with the disease, he said, and we can sell the cure. Attention Deficit Disorder, Seasonal Affect Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder. These aren’t diseases, they’re marketing ploys. Doctors didn’t discover them, copywriters did. Marketing departments did. Drug companies did. – Steven Pressfield

Every day of being a medical doctor was chipping away at my integrity. – Lissa Rankin, MD

We are masters of our own destiny

It’s becoming evident that western traditional medicine is not the solution to our problems.

In fact, prescription drugs and the modern lifestyle never have been the solution.

We have to analyze the root cause of the diseases; the “whole person” should be focused on, not just the disease itself.

We need a different way of thinking; we need something that the mainstream media are hiding to us.

While we can’t change our DNA, we can alter how it expresses itself.

External signals like nutrition, environment in which we live, thoughts, emotions, can influence regulatory proteins that determine how and even whether DNA gets expressed in certain ways.

In other words, we are not victims of our genes. We are masters of our own destiny.

So, what does it takes for the body to thrive?

In my experience there are three elements that need to be considered: nutrition (or in a wider sense biochemistry), emotional stress and physical shape; that’s what natural medicine is all about.

1. Nutrition / Biochemistry

Let the food you eat be your medicine.

Let the food you eat slowly kill you or let it slowly heal you.

You can choose, you have control over the food choices you make. What we put in our body really matters.

Don’t be fooled to think that junk food is not going to affect your health that much. What we eat alters the chemistry of our body either positively or negatively.

Artificially modifying the chemistry with a prescription drug will only disrupt the biochemistry even more feeding the disease.

We are not deficient in a prescription drug, we are deficient in vitamins and minerals.

Though the symptoms are covered and we are “happy”. That’s the crazy world we live in!

2. Emotional Stress

Nowadays mental stress is a huge problem, it’s probably the major body breaker.

Our life is completely out of balance, we live in constant worries and anxiety, we doubt ourselves.

This might not be visible from the outside but it wears down ourselves from the inside.

Fear is the emotion that leads us. And when fear controls us there’s no space for love.

Clearly the body is not going to sustain vitality in that condition: start accepting yourself for just being you; let go of your fears and make space for love. 

3. Structure / Physical exercise

A correct structure, or physical shape, is necessary for the body to function properly.

Think of a squared tire: it won’t roll.

Physical exercise is a great way to be fit: it lowers the weight, improves the shape and fitness by strengthening muscles and bones, it regulates the glucose metabolism, releases endorphin that make you feel happy and helps regulate sleep.

Health is a choice

If you harmonize the 3 element listed above, you’ll thrive. 

And if you are sick you’ll heal from any chronic disease.

That’s the message of hope I want to spread.

“Health is a choice” means to give back hope to people that risked to lose it.

In my FREE e-book “DNA Is Not Your Destiny” I explain just that: I want you to know that you are not victim of your genes. You are the master of your destiny.

So now, it’s your choice. Make a decision. Take the challenge. It’s all on you.

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