Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Three elements of Health | The Health Triangle

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What does it takes for the body to thrive? In my experience there are three elements that need to be considered: nutrition (or in a wider sense biochemistry), emotional stress and physical shape; that’s what natural medicine is all about.
You can think of these 3 elements as the sides of a triangle and each one is as important as the others. If you address only one or two elements probably you’ll feel better however you won’t see a full transformation until all of them are took in consideration. Indeed, the three components are interconnected and each one feeds the other, that’s why we absolutely need all of them.
Let the food be your medicine. Let the food you eat slowly kill you or let it slowly heal you. You can choose, you have control over the food choices you make. What we put in our body really matters. Don’t be fooled to think that junk food is not going to affect your health that much. What we eat alters the chemistry of our body either positively or negatively. Nowadays our diets consists of refined sugar, refined flours and carbohydrates, trans fats, alcohol, caffeine and all kind of processed foods filled with chemicals and preservatives. The 300 trillion cells that make up our body can’t sustain vitality on junk or processed food, in fact the more you do to a food the worse it gets for us to absorb.
Ingested food have to be digested, this consists in a complex chemistry that breaks down the food into smaller and essential nutrients as vitamins and minerals. These nutrients are absorbed and utilized while the waste is eliminated. The result of our bad diet is that, as the chemistry goes out of control, the body become toxic and depleted of essential mineral and vitamins. The organs that detoxify the body (mainly the liver but also lungs, skin, kidneys and bowels) are forced to work much harder to keep up with the situation.
To make matters worse the environment is heavily polluted; the air we breathe, the food we eat, the water we drink, electromagnetic frequencies: they all further disrupt our biochemistry. That creates the right environment for parasites to thrive within our body allowing allergies and infections to come up. Finally, at that point, a chronic disease sets in and your traditional doctor will try to heal it with prescription drugs. But that’s not going to work! It cannot work! Artificially modifying the chemistry with a prescription drug will only disrupt the biochemistry even more feeding the disease. We are not deficient in a prescription drug, we are deficient in vitamins and minerals. Though the symptoms are covered and we are “happy”. That’s the crazy world we live in!
Emotional stress
Nowadays mental stress is a huge problem, it’s probably the major body breaker. Our life is completely out of balance, we live in constant worries and anxiety, we doubt ourselves. This might not be visible from the outside but it wears down ourselves from the inside. Fear is the emotion that leads us; we are afraid not to have enough money, we are afraid to lose our job, actually we hate our job and we see it only as a mean to make money. How can you be happy doing something you hate for eight hours a day?
When we are stressed the entire system goes in “fight or flight” mode, that is, in danger or emergency mode. This state is conceived for us to be, temporarily, as alert as possible but today we are constantly stressed, it’s not an emergency state anymore. The body stops the digestion, shuts off all the functions not essential to survive including the healing and repair mechanisms. Stress hormones, as adrenaline and cortisol are released, and they make us aggressive and nervous. Finally adrenal fatigue and a nervous breakdown set in.
Clearly the body is not going to sustain vitality in that condition: start accepting yourself for just being you; let go of your fears and make space for love.
Structure/Physical exercise
A correct structure, or physical shape, is necessary for the body to function properly. Think of a squared tire: it won’t roll. A person not overweight and with strong muscles and bones is a good example of a fit person. If, for instance, you become overweight, bones will bend under the weight, leading maybe to scoliosis, pain sets in and the body is put under a lot of physical stress.
Physical exercise is a great way to be fit: it lowers the weight, improves the shape and fitness by strengthening muscles and bones, it regulate the glucose metabolism, releases endorphin that make you feel happy and helps regulate sleep. You can run, cycle, swim, go to a gym, whatever you want. Actually there is no need to be a marathon runner, it can be sufficient to walk or simply to stay in movement conducting an active lifestyle.
The three components mentioned are interconnected, for instance, emotional stress could affect the biochemistry activating the “fight or flight” response and releasing adrenalin, lack of physical exercise could trigger sadness or depression if too little endorphins are produced, a bad diet could make you fat disrupting the physical structure. As you see, we need all the components of the triangle of health. If you harmonize all of them you’ll thrive. And if you are sick you’ll heal from any chronic disease. That’s the message of hope I want to spread.

Tuesday, 23 August 2016

How To Live In The Present Moment, Be Mindful And Stop Worrying Too Much

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“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live in the present moment, wisely and earnestly.”
Buddha (Religious Leader)
“A human mind is a wandering mind and a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.”
Matthew Killingsworth (Author, Stumbling On Happiness)
“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”
Dalai Lama (Tibetan Leader)

I used to be neurotic.
(Okay, maybe I’m still a little neurotic.)
I used to worry about everything.
My health.
My career.
My relationships with other people.
At the same time, I was weirdly proud of my ability to worry about things.
Look at all this crap I’m worried about!
I must be super important if I have all this stupid crap in my life!
Then I started having panic attacks.
I used to think panic attacks were something that only affected weak people.
Nope — they can happen to anyone.
(That, or I’m just weak. Or both?)
I raced into the emergency room one day and told the nurse I was having a heart attack.
I was out of breath and lightheaded and my heart was pounding.
She took one look at me and told me to sit down because I was only having a panic attack.
Now I was panicked AND embarrassed.
Had I really worried so much in life that I was having full-blown, biological, uncontrollable, fight-or-flight response?
Yes, I was.
My worrisome mind had made me miserable and unhealthy.
It wasn’t until many months later that I was able to manage my overactive mind and get present and purposeful with my life again.
As I became more present and purposeful, I became happier and happier.

Why Intentional Activity Is The Key To Happiness

The purpose of life is to be happy.
The end.
Your ultimate endpoint in life is not a job title or an annual salary.
At best, those are average goals, or average outcomes.
Your ultimate endpoint is not your lifestyle either.
The actions you want to wake up and do on a daily basis are important, but they are not your ultimate endpoint.
Your true endpoint is how you feel.
Your true endpoint is pleasure, or happiness.
The problem is that what makes you happy is not what will make someone else happy.
Another problem is that what makes you happy now, might not make you happy later.
Happiness is complex, but it can be measured and broken down into understandable components.

Monday, 22 August 2016

Religions: Humanism or Fundamentalism?

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Religions: Humanism or Fundamentalism?

Religions were born form a human desire to seek consolation, reassurance and the hope of an afterlife. Morality was also based on religions. But if their purpose was to transform human behavior in the direction of love and inner peace they failed. The message of the early spiritual leaders, Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha has been distorted and used for politic interests after their deaths.
The problem with Holy Scriptures is that we take them literally. This was traditionally referred to as fundamentalism. The Bible, the Quran, and so on, are great mythological books of metaphors, they’re awesome, but they’re not to be taken literally. This ruined their great teachings and created hatred because they are incompatible with one another. This is a more humanistic view where human beings are the center of the attention and religions are a means to live a better life. They should help us understand the concepts that go beyond the physics (metaphysics). They should be a bridge between what we understand (science) and what we don’t. They should serve us. They should be a means for personal growth.
Following the episodes that in the last years have promoted unethical actions and violence, the term fundamentalism has been slowly redefined by our society. It is now only associated with radical actions and terrorism. But I am convinced that everything is more profound than that and the correct meaning is the original one.
The cruelest slaughters  have been made in the name of religions and we force children to grow with the same religion of the parents without asking ourselves questions. Have you ever heard about the nature based philosophy Taoism? Why less than 1% knows it? Maybe because it’s a religion that would free the masses from the institutions. And this is not convenient, because institutions want you slave, they want to control you. Why don’t we make kids study all world religions at school and show them how they are incompatible with one another? They would be free to choose.
And if you still argue that organized religions teach peace and brotherhood maybe you are lying to yourself. The truth is I don’t need an institution that makes me fear to go to hell to do a good deed, to love others, to give all myself to others. I do it because I think it’s right, because I love others. Because I believe in Oneness. I dream a world without religions. I dream a world based on philosophies.

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Religions: Humanism or Fundamentalism?

Saturday, 20 August 2016

How To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Avoid A Miserable Life

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“I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. (xxvi)”
Eve Ensler (Author, I Am An Emotional Creature)
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.”
Jim Carrey (Actor, The Truman Show)
“In trying to please all, he had pleased none.”
Aesop (Ancient Greek Fabulist, Aesop’s Fables)

I have a secret.
I like to make other people happy.
I enjoy the validation.
(I know — you’re like, who is this? Isaiah is the opposite of a people-pleaser. His whole platform is based on NOT pleasing other people. Right?)
Despite my best efforts, I will always get a dopamine rush when other people tell me “good job”.
I will always feel good when I do what someone else wants me to do.
At least, at first.
It’s biology.
Me, you, everyone — we are all biologically wired to not only follow other people, but to feel good when we follow them.
We are hard-wired to do what other people tell us to do AND to get a “high” from doing what we are told.
You can’t fight biology.
You can’t rip out the neurons in your brain that control this.
But you can manage your biology.
You can train yourself to ask questions first, before accepting someone else’s validation.
You can ask questions before doing what someone else wants you to do, just because they want you to do it.
This is what I learned to do (eventually).
My first reaction is still to please other people.
My first reaction is still to get the positive attention that comes with being agreeable and doing what other people want me to do.
But I’ve learned to let these feelings pass through me before taking action.
I let my biology react, then I ask questions internally. Is this really what I want? Am I going to regret this? Will I lose part of myself? Am I doing this for the right reasons?  Then, I take action.

Why Pleasing Other People Only Makes You Miserable

Do you want to live a miserable life?
Here’s how: try to please everyone.
Put other people’s happiness in front of your own.
Do this for a few weeks or a few months and I guarantee you one thing: you will be miserable.
Your life will be a crushing defeat in every way.
Not only will you not feel satisfied… everyone you’re trying to please won’t feel satisfied either.
You’ll set a pattern that says you’ll do anything to make them happy.
You’ll sacrifice your own needs for theirs.
For what?
Praise? Pats on the head? Treats from the candy jar?
Pleasing everyone makes you easily used, taken for granted, and weak.
So, why do you do this?
Why is it so easy to be a people-pleaser?
The journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience published a study that suggests that “social conformity” (or people-pleasing) is a skill used by some to avoid mental stress caused by disagreement.
You like to be liked and not have conflict.
As a result, sometimes you either hold back what you really think, or placate others by going out of your way to be extra agreeable.
This coping mechanism has backlash of its own however: contributing to anxiety and mental stress, as well as increasing the risk of poor decision-making, buckling under social pressures, and relationship issues.
The same journal reported in a study that social conformity was a way for people to feel included in social connections, and that acceptance is often sought for overall positive affect.
The problem is that the lengths many people will go to in order to avoid rejection or controversy have become extreme.
Because “selfish” and “greedy” are labels most want to avoid, people will often sacrifice their own needs for others.
In a study from the Proceedings from the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, researchers found that people would sacrifice for another in what they called “hyperaltruism”.
Yep — hyperaltruism.
A word that essentially means you give everything to others, even if they walk all over you and treat you like crap.
You give everything, even if you know you’re being used as a crutch and your giving is actually hurting the other person.
Hyperaltruism, or being a people-pleaser, is a lose-lose scenario.

Friday, 19 August 2016

What it means to have faith

This post first appeared at: What It Means To Have Faith | Fabrizio Fusco

To have faith is to have positive confidence or trust in something.  It is to believe something is true even without proof. Because where there is evidence we can’t speak of faith.
Everything in existence begins as a thought. When a thought is thought enough then it becomes a belief Proof is a manifestation of a thought that you think often enough that it becomes part of your physical reality. Faith is the bridge between thinking and knowing. It is the confidence in the validity of something positive before the proof has manifested physically.
Having faith in a positive outcome doesn’t mean you’re denying a problem or ignoring obstacles. It’s like flying on instruments: it’s acting on the assumption that just because you can’t see a possibility at the moment doesn’t mean that it’s not there.
In our modern society, faith has become a tool to pretend to know something that we don’t know.We mistake faith for knowing. So we close our minds to other experiences, other possibilities. Faith becomes ignorance when it becomes proof of “knowing”. To have confidence in something or to hope for something is not to know something. Instead it is a sort of bravery, the bravery to walk in the unknown.
We are the ones who should choose what we have faith in. We are the ones who have confidence in something. Organized religions cannot impose their faith on us. Every scientific discovery began with a scientist having faith in his studies. After all, he did not yet have the proof he needed to be sure.
Faith should never be confused with knowing. Saying “I don’t know” is way better than pretending you know. Faith should never close a person down to possibilities because this only makes us ignorant. A spiritual person is a person who is full of faith. It is a person who is willing to live with confidence and hope in a Universe full of the unknown. Spiritual growth involves giving up the stories of your past so the Universe can write a new one.

Sunday, 14 August 2016

Prayer of Apology to African Americans

On behalf of myself, and on behalf of my country, to you and all African Americans, from the beginning of our nation's history, in honor of your ancestors and for the sake of your children, please hear this from my heart…

I apologize,

please forgive us.

With this prayer I acknowledge the depth of evils that have been perpetrated against black people in America.

From slavery, to lynchings, to white supremacist laws, to the denial of voting rights, to all the ways both large and small, that abuses have occurred - all of them evil, all of them wrong.

For all the oppression and all the injustice…

I apologize,

please forgive us.

For the denial of human and civil rights, for inequities in criminal justice, for instances of police brutality, for the denial of opportunity, for economic injustice, for all ways that racism has fostered these wrongs…

I apologize,

please forgive us.

With this prayer I acknowledge the beauty and genius of your culture, the power and genius of those who came before you, of your children and all your descendants. With this prayer we pray that you, your children, and especially your men be blessed and protected.

May your men be blessed and protected.

May your men be blessed and protected.

May all your men, women and children be surrounded by angels at this time.

Dear God, may a great healing occur.

We place in your hands the relationship between black and white Americans.

May we be lifted high above the walls that divide us.

May our hearts be awakened to our truth of our oneness.

May racism and prejudice be no more.

May they dissolve in the presence of Your love.

Please come upon us and heal our hearts.

To you, my African American fellow citizen, please accept my apology on this day. It is to you and your grandparents, and their grandparents before them, and their grandparents before them.

May the screams that were not allowed, be allowed now.

May the cries that were never heard be heard now.

May the tears that were never heard be heard now.

And may the healing begin.

In this sacred container, may the healing begin.

May the Light of love now heal us all.


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The ULTIMATE Guide Of Principles To Live By

Build a vibrant, healthy, and spiritual life with these principles.


1. Health is our greatest wealth

What are you living for, if not to follow your dreams, to be the man or woman you want to be, to be proud of your ideas? If you don't believe that you can heal your body, your mind, your life, then what are you living for? You have got to fight your way back into the light. Release your fears and start living. You have to believe that you are in control. You matter! And you will find that life is worth living.

2. Our philosophy is all about nature because it's the way to live a spiritual life

People block their intuitions, their truth, the natural energy flowing. They get in the way. They get in their own way. Otherwise life flows naturally and healing occurs naturally on every level because the capacity for self-correction is built into the Universe. We want you to know that true healing starts within, that the power of nature is the answer to our “incurable” chronic diseases. It doesn't matter what religion or walk of life you are from. Spirituality is a universal path to love and inner peace. It's an unlearning process, the unlearning of the ego's false belief system, of the negativity, of the lack, the comparing, the separation. We want to release those fear based beliefs and the blocks to the presence of love so we can reconnect to our inspiration that is our inner guidance or spiritual guidance.

3. We promote individual liberty and self-love

We are here to express our true “self“, our authenticity, our greatness. Western institutions, politics, organized religions influenced people with concepts as humilitysufferingsacrificeequality seeking to make us all equal by making us all “slaves“. So, people are now convinced that if they seek self-love and go in the direction of pleasure, they will be bad, selfish and a menace to society. The truth is that what we choose to do with our power is what is bad or good. Not power itself. Our playing small doesn't serve the world. We want to blaze our own path to give others permission and inspiration to do the same. Self-love and self-confidence are the roots from where everything grows. We want to fill our own cup with love and let it spill over to others.

4. We are all interdependent; we believe in the concept of Oneness

People always seek independence; this is only beneficial to move from a feeling of powerlessness to a feeling of empowerment. But soon it becomes detrimental because our true nature is to be interdependent. To be truly dependent is to be truly trusting, it is to becomeOne. We cannot exist as individuals; we live in a house that someone else built, we walk on streets that someone else built, we eat food that someone else gathers. We either thrive asOne or we suffer as individuals. Every time we attack someone, we are deepening our own wounds. Our job is not to attack others, but rather to stimulate the natural forces of healing.

5. We want to heal emotional wounds and unleash the inner artist

We want to heal our minds from worries, anxiety and fear. We are aware that self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. We can afford to wait without anxiety because we are certain of the outcome and we know that the Universe has our back. We want to boost our self-confidence, improve relationships and find within us an innocence that is the truth of who we are. Because when we practice seeing the world through the eyes of an artist, the entire world transforms itself into a work of art.

6. Nutrition is our medicine

The food we eat can slowly kill us or can slowly heal us. And we get to choose. What we put in our body really matters. We are deficient in vitamins and minerals, not in prescription drugs. And when the body has all it needs then self-repair can take place. It's all about creating a new lifestyle that supports vitality.

7. Physical exercise is the way we keep fit

We understand that physical exercise is a great way to be fit: it lowers the weight, strengthens muscles and bones, regulate the glucose metabolism, releases endorphin that make you feel happy and helps regulate sleep. We can run, jog, walk or just stay in movement conducting an active lifestyle.

8. We understand that wealth is a state of mind

Wealth is a state of mind and we can reach it by following our passion and being creative. Money is just a tool. And it's essential to reach our vision of a better future. Money is a means that allows us to reach our end goals. The failure to understand that, and the love of money, is what's really evil. Not the money itself. We understand that when you want more of something you have to give more of that something. If you want power you empower, if you want abundance you give abundantly, if you want love you give love. You have to give away what you want to receive back.

9. We acknowledge that nothing can be imposed on anyone – not even help.

We respect and don't judge other opinions; we want to love in such a way that loved people feel free. We understand that nothing can be imposed – not even help. We can only help people that are willing to be changed. All we can do is find our own bliss giving others inspiration and permission to do the same.

10. Join the movement and make a difference

We want to make a difference. If you want to reduce suffering in the world you have to start by enabling yourself to be happy. It takes only one person to start changing the world: it's yourself. A new beginning starts within you. And then you can change the world transforming one person at a time. If you like our philosophy join our movement, share, spread the word. Follow the website We want to heal this wounded world. If we can encourage more people to join us that would be a movement. And if the movement is strong enough then it becomes a revolution. Living by these principles we want to start a revolution… A non-violent revolution conducted in our hearts and minds.

You can also download this manifesto as a PDF:

Coach Fabrizio's Manifesto

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Wednesday, 10 August 2016

3 Reasons You'll NEVER Get Anywhere Unless... (WARNING!)

An important message from Ralph Smart. 

To get anywhere in life you have to be honest with yourself. 

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Relationships on the Spiritual Path—Part 4: Unconditional Love, Conditional Access

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I’m in love with this Alanis Morrissette song “You Owe Me Nothing in Return.” In fact, I have a girl crush on Alanis in general, especially after I heard her speak with one my spiritual influences Adyashanti. For a long time, I used the lyrics to this song about unconditional love as a sort of sacred contract I proposed between friends, family members, and romantic partners. It was my benchmark, the ideal of perfect love that I strove to achieve.
Years later, I’d love to sit down for tea with Alanis and ask her if she still felt the same way about unconditional love as she did when she wrote this song. I still love it and resonate with a lot of it, but I feel like there might be an additional verse. Maybe I’ll have to write my own song some day . . .

The Privilege of Intimacy

It’s no small thing, this commitment to radical soul growth via relationship. It’s a privilege to be invited into someone’s most intimate heart spaces. It’s an honor to have our own heart touched and explored, with tenderness and curiosity. It also can be scary as hell, especially when your heart has been hurt, as most of ours have.
I’m an intimacy junkie. It’s part of why I went to medical school, so I could have a front row seat on the most intimate and vulnerable moments of the human experience—birth, illness, and death. I ponder what it means to be invited into these intimate spaces, not just medically, but in all the ways love shows up. I’ve come to believe that we have to be careful who we let all the way in. Taking risks is part of the journey from the head to the heart, but it doesn’t seem wise to be reckless with something as vulnerable and tender as the heart. Yet, there’s nothing stronger than the heart. Does it really need protection?
Protecting the Heart
These are the inquiries that I ponder when sitting beside waterfalls and gazing at stars. I’m curious about how we guard and protect the heart and what makes us feel safe enough to take down our armor. I’m curious how to keep the heart open when you feel like a turtle without a shell in a briar-patch world.
What happens when love has no conditions? Surely, we must still limit access to the innermost sanctuary of the heart, to invite others to earn our trust, even if love comes without needing to be earned. In other words:
Don’t let anyone into your garden who stomps on your flowers.
I don’t know how these things work, but I suspect that in order for the heart to feel safe enough to open all the way, we need to be with people we really trust. As I wrote in Part 2 of this blog series, building trust with someone enables us to be brave enough to dive deeper into true intimacy, not the false intimacy of over disclosure and premature vulnerability, but the real intimacy that comes with slowly disclosing the tenderest parts of ourselves and having them met with gentleness and respect.