How To Make Yourself Happy And Improve Your Relationships

Find more on: The health and life coach Fabrizio Fusco

It’s easy to blame other people for what’s going wrong in our life.

It’s the easiest thing to do.

But we need to start to take a deep look inside ourselves. And take responsibility for our choices.

Be part of the solution

We always point our finger against others when something is not the way we want it to be. We watch the world crumble before our eyes and we always think that others are the problem.

Actually we contribute to the problem thinking that it’s not our responsibility to resolve it. It was there before us, after all.

It may be true; we didn’t cause all the problems.

But what if we held ourselves responsible and say “I’m better than that, I can fix it myself”?

Instead we don’t think that it’s our problem because we fail to understand that if we are contributing to the problem then we are part of the problem.

So if you don’t want to be part of the problem then always focus on being part of the solution.

You decide between being part of the problem or part of the solution in every single moment of your life, in every single decision you face.

So choose wisely: be part of the solution. Because the world needs solutions, not further problems.

“Building trust requires no more than telling the truth, not telling people what they want to hear.”– Simon Sinek

“Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.”–Stephen Covey

“If you hire people just because they can do a job, they’ll work for your money. But if you hire people who believe what you believe, they’ll work for you with blood and sweat and tears.”– Simon Sinek

Have faith in the external world

Too many times we don’t have faith in other people, we don’t have faith in the external world.

We always seek independence… But our true nature is to be interdependent. This means to truly trust others, it means to become One.

To build something awesome you need people. People like you. People like me.You have to place faith in other people.

You have to convince them that what you’re talking about matters. You have to involve them in a project bigger than themselves.

Because if you know your purpose, if you know why you’re doing it, you will be motivated every single day. And people will give you, naturally and with enthusiasm, great amount of their time, energy and effort.

Here are three things you can do to improve happiness, relationships and productivity:

1. Be a Leader

Leaders don’t give orders, they give inspiration. They teach through example.

You don’t need to have a business to be a leader. You can be a leader in every relationship: friends, children, family.

Great leaders develop people. They equip people to be successful. They discover what other people are good at. They build something worth fighting for.

There’s one single question you can ask yourself to understand if you are a true leader:

“If my position, title or formal authority were removed, would people that I’m leading still gladly follow me?”

If the answer is yes, then you have earned the respect of the people you lead.

2. Seek interdependence

People always seek independence; this is only beneficial to move from a feeling of powerlessness to a feeling of empowerment.

But soon it becomes detrimental because our true nature is to be interdependent.

Interdependent people are independent people that work together to create something beyond what they can do on their own. They use complementary talents to create something beyond themselves.

We cannot exist as individuals; we live in a house that someone else built, we walk on streets that someone else built, we eat food that someone else gathers.

We either thrive as One or we suffer as individuals.

Every time we attack someone, we are deepening our own wounds. Our job is not to attack others, but rather to stimulate the natural forces of healing.

3. Listen before you speak

You should listen with the intent to understand. Not with the intent to reply. Seek first to understand then to be understood.

We have different perspectives that may be both right. This happens because, our brain, represent reality through filtering and personalization.

For this reason, practice empathic listening.

Try to see the world through the eyes of the other person. And you come to realize that what they say make sense from their perspective.Even if you don’t agree. 

A new beginning starts within you

It may be true; this world is not how we want it to be.

But we are not bad. We are wounded. And a new beginning starts within us, if we truly want it.

We have to learn tolove ourselves first. Because if we are incapable of finding love in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.

In my FREE e-book “Love your life” I explain just that: how to love yourself once again. Because everything starts within and self-love is the root form which everything grows.

See additional info on: FabrizioFusco.com Nutrition Coaching